I am a runner. Not the physical, race-type runner (I get winded after one block), but a runner just the same. I am really good at running away from things. I feel like maybe I’ve mastered the art of running from who I am.
I am an artist. I know this for sure. But it is the one thing I am most scared of. It’s like I know I have all this creativity inside dying to be cultivated, but sometimes I can’t seem to move! And so instead of trying to work on my artistic vision, I run away from it.
Let me explain: Being an artist takes both discipline and honesty. Both are necessary to cultivate my passion of singing and songwriting, and both are things from which I run.
As far as discipline goes, sometimes my mind is bombarded with thoughts of how I should have spent my time to truly develop my craft. Like this morning. I know I should have sat down and played 15 scales on the piano before I did anything else, or I know I should be more disciplined to take risks and mess around with different writing forms. But I didn’t because it is work. My stubbornness tells me that I don’t want to sit down in front of the piano, and that I don’t want to see those keys begging me to create something of meaning. So, I ran from the hard work. And running breeds self-doubt within myself. I start doubting if I can still do the scales well or if my experimentation with new forms of writing will lead to anything good. Sometimes I question if I even like what I do.
I also run from the honesty part of being an artist. One thing I do as an artist is write. And songwriting, for it to be truly meaningful, needs to come from a place of vulnerability, a place of being totally stripped and of being able to feel as deeply as possible. It means being completely aware of myself and having confidence in my own experiences. Trusting my voice. Trusting that I actually have something to say. This part is what is so scary. I run away from doing the internal work to produce something for people. I run because of self-doubt. Doubt that I won’t be honest with myself. Doubt that my honesty won’t be enough for others. My time is spent watching others, rather than sitting down and doing the dirty work of being vulnerable. I find every excuse to not discover or create.
But I’m tired of running.
I used to think I could do anything and write anything and be relatively satisfied. But because I run from both my discipline and honesty, I’ve felt a lack of creativity for the past year. And it hasn’t been fun. Feels like I’ve lost some connection with myself because I haven’t created in a while.
It’s like I know I have this idea of what others expect out of me and what I expect of myself, and most of the time I don’t measure up. My pride says I don’t want to produce anything but beauty and genius, but I know I have to sort through the garbage first. I desire for my work to count, for it to hold some meaning, but it certainly won’t be perfect every time. Everything is a work in progress, and the truth is that I have to start somewhere. I have to stop running. I have to stop running from myself and realize there is still time to change.
The next time I am tempted to run from either hard work or authentic expression, I will STOP a sec, CATCH my breath and ask…Am I running out of fear? Am I running because I’m afraid I’m not good enough? If the answer is yes, then it’s time to turn around and face my fears head on so that I can overcome them.
Change doesn’t happen overnight, but I’ve decided to hang up my running shoes and try just the same. Who knows, maybe I’ll actually learn to find my true stride.
My name is Andrea Rizzo. I’ve been with STONES for 12 years. I’ve studied music in Chicago, and I now currently live on Hilton Head Island in South Carolina, engaged to be married! I sing a little, dance a little and laugh a little. My heart desires to see generations of women and young girls know their worth, and I know the message of STONES is doing just that.